How are you coping with everything happening around you?

I believe that therapy is an act of defiance. Defying the often oppressive structures that we are born into. Developing the ability to have reflective capacity is an act of radical self love, and a movement toward personal liberation that has a broader positive impact on the culture at large.

Using a relational approach to psychotherapy I will work with you to create a safe and reliable space to explore and be curious about your unique experience. By making links between your past and present, we can increase your self awareness and understanding which opens the door to creating meaningful and long-lasting change.

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THERAPY FOR Anxiety in California

THERAPY FOR depression in California

Approach

My work integrates:

  • Attachment-based psychotherapy

  • Nervous-system and somatic approaches

  • Parts work (IFS-informed)

  • Brainspotting

  • Depth-oriented and relational therapy

These approaches allow therapy to address both the psychological and physiological layers of experience—supporting healing that is integrated, sustainable, and deeply personal.

THERAPY FOR trauma in California

THERAPY FOR Life Transitions

Entering a therapeutic relationship takes real strength and courage. I do not take this lightly. With my clients I take a respectful and collaborative approach maintaining that my clients are the experts of their experience. I am deeply curious, direct, and value humor and being playful when appropriate.

My approach is rooted in utilizing a relational approach and looking at the whole person within the context of their life, culture, and lineage, as well as the broader culture and social structures that can impinge on our ability to feel fully, and maintain a curiosity about ourselves, how we came to be, and where we consciously want to go.

The populations I enjoy providing my services to include adults, transgender, gender non conforming, non binary, queer, kink, poly, and cis hetero folks. I also enjoy working with therapists as well as other professionals engaged in the helping profession such as nurses and public defenders (for example).

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  • “Kalani has been incredibly perceptive during our visits. We appreciate his candor and directness. He is respectful, has a great sense of humor, and is passionate about our visits/sessions being practical, and useful. His relaxed and reassuring manner have helped us be kinder and more compassionate to ourselves. We have made great strides in a number of areas, thanks to a great guide!” 10 out of 10

  • “My teenage son and I started working with Kalani to help us understand and resolve intense conflicts that we were happening on a regular basis on school mornings. Our family had also recently been through a divorce, and I wanted my son to have extra space and help processing that experience. Kalani's compassion, humor and patient steering helped both of us reconnect and resolve these regular disputes within a few sessions, and we continued working with him both 1:1 and together for many months to further understand each other and strengthen our relationship.”

  • “I've had a few therapists over the years. I would tell myself I just needed to talk through this one specific issue or another, and then I'd stop. I found Kalani when I realized maybe I had more than just one or two specific issues to work through, ha! Still, I had trouble opening up completely for a long time. Kalani had a knack for always meeting me wherever I was, matching my energy, and knowing when I really needed a good probing question and when I just needed some space. He created such a safe environment for me that I was finally able to remove the mask I'd carried with me throughout my life, and remove it not only during our sessions but in my daily interactions with others. I feel my most authentic self these days: not perfect, still "a couple" of issues to work through, but I've made more progress than I imagined and feel better in ways I didn't know I could. Kalani would say that I did the hard work, but I credit him for creating the reprieve in which I could do that work. I can't thank him or recommend him enough!”

  • “Kalani is a skilled, caring, and insightful therapist. I had the great fortune to have his help during one of the most difficult years of my life. He was able to support my long-overdue processing of decades-old family trauma and then seamlessly pivot to help me through a difficult and painful recovery from total knee replacement. Kalani offered a safe space, gentle curiosity, thoughtful observations, and consistent engagement in my stories and struggles. He commiserated with me, asking spot-on questions; helped me see things in new ways; and celebrated my progress. I feel so much gratitude for his help and am comforted to know that this kind person is a part of my world.”

  • “Thank you for all of your help this year. You're part of the reason why they smile so much again. I feel like I have my kid back.”

Developing the ability to have reflective capacity is an act of radical self love. This is a movement toward personal liberation that has a broader positive impact on the culture at large.